Terry Crews known for his role in TV Series ‘Everybody Hates Chris’ has revealed how his addiction to porn nearly destroyed his marriage, saying he would have been divorced now if not for rehab.
The “Brooklyn Nine-Nine” actor and former NFL Player posted three videos on Facebook titled ‘dirty little secrets’ and revealed how his battle with porn addiction nearly ended his marriage.
“Pornography, it really, really messed up my life in a lot of ways,” Crews said in his first video, adding that day turned into night while he watched. ”Some people say, ‘Hey, man … you can’t really be addicted to pornography.’ But I’m gonna tell you something: If day turns into night and you are still watching, you probably have got a problem. And that was me,” he said. “It changes the way you think about people. People become objects. People become body parts; they become things to be used rather than people to be loved.” “My wife was literally like, ‘I don’t know you anymore. I’m out of here.’ And that changed me.”
He said he went to therapy seven years ago, and used the second Facebook video to answer fan’s questions about how he overcame the habit.
“I went to therapy, big time. When I went into therapy I didn’t know what was going on, how to beat it, I couldn’t do it alone,” “I had to realize when I was depressed. I had to realize when I was sad about something or when I was feeling lonely. Because those were the times I was more likely to use pornography.”
Crews also said that he had to overcome shame and a big sense of entitlement during rehab. “I felt the world owed me something. I felt like my wife owed me sex,” “I felt that everybody owed me. And when you have a sense of entitlement, it’s extremely dangerous.” Crews said he and his wife had to engage in a sex ban for 90 days that made them more in love than ever.
“Ninety days — no sex, all relationship, all talk, all cuddle,” the actor said. “I found that at the end of that 90 days … I knew who she was, and it wasn’t about ‘Let’s go out because I know I’m gonna get some sex later.’ It was like, ‘Let’s go because I want to talk to you. I want to know you.'” “I have been getting a lot, a lot of messages and well wishes from people out there,” “Women, you need to be fearless. You need to confront your man about this problem,” he said in the second clip, recorded while he drove around Los Angeles in a convertible. “You cannot accept any pornography in your life.” In the third video, posted Tuesday, Crews described porn as “an intimacy killer.” “Every time I watched it, I was walled off. It was like another brick that came between me and my wife. And the truth is, everything you need for intimacy is in your (partner).”